An empowering, grounded, and compassionate guide to responding to meltdowns with calm, decoding behavior through a sensory lens, and building trust that lasts.
Written by Mary Kostka, a seasoned pediatric occupational therapist and founder of ‘Ohana OT, who’s helped thousands of children and families find their calm.
How to Decode Meltdowns Before They Happen: You’ll learn why most behavior plans miss the mark, and how to identify the nervous system overload that’s often underneath the storm.
The Calm Child Code™: Mary’s 3-step, proven method used in her clinic: Calm Yourself, Calm the Environment, Calm the Child. It’s the game-changing approach your parenting toolbox needs.
“Connection Calms the Brain”: Learn why co-regulation, not correction, is the key to helping your child shift from chaos to calm.
Why Your Calm Is Their Anchor: It’s not just about behavior. It’s about nervous system science, real-world tools, and becoming the steady presence your child needs most.
Behavior Is a Broadcast: Understand the critical signals your child is sending, and how to respond in a way that builds safety, trust, and resilience.
You're tired of sticker charts, time-outs, and advice that doesn’t work
You want a calmer home, and a more connected relationship with your child
You value evidence-backed strategies and compassion over punishment
You’re looking for a whole-family approach, not just quick fixes
MARY KOSTKA
OTR/L
Mary Kostka, OTR/L, specializes in pediatric occupational therapy and sensory integration. Driven by a mission to help 100,000 families move from daily distress to steady success, she empowers parents to understand behavior through a nervous-system-first lens. With grounded wisdom, deep empathy, and real-world tools, Mary helps families not just survive, but thrive
You don’t need to be perfect. You just need the right map. Start with From Distress to Success.
Click below to get your copy and take the first step toward calmer days, deeper connection, and parenting with clarity.
Because your child’s meltdowns don’t start with bad behavior. They start with a nervous system asking for help.
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